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What is High Conflict Custody?

What is High Conflict Custody?

Divorce is often a legal nightmare, especially if the couple involved do not agree with certain terms, such as division of assets and liabilities and spousal support. But one of the most emotional disagreements involve child custody.

Some of the leading factors that cause high conflict custody are abuse, neglect, financial problems, ethical disagreements, and parental alienation. Whatever the cause of your case is, it doesn’t change the fact that it has a negative effect not just on you and your spouse, but also on your children. This is particularly problematic if the children are young, because it can affect their development.

Here are some of the possible effects of high conflict custody to children:

  • Anxiety and depression
  • Feelings of worthlessness, including low self-confidence and self-esteem
  • Going back to behaviors he or she has already outgrown, such as bed wetting
  • Poor performance in school
  • Rebellious tendency, including aggressive behaviors like shouting and disobeying and passive-aggressive
  • behaviors like not talking to you and staying away from you

To minimize the effects of high conflict custody on the parties involved, especially the children, you should try to make the legal issue as peaceful as possible, and you can do this by considering the following actions:

  • Tell the child that the decision is not his or her fault, and it is solely an adult issue
  • Because it is an adult issue, it is better to put the child away from the conflict as far as possible
  • To put the child away from the issue, don’t even think of using him or her to testify against the other parent, because it will only make the child more involved
  • Convince your child to focus on other things, such as school and recreation
  • Understand your ex-partner’s perspective and compromise accordingly
  • Don’t get overly emotional, because emotions such as anger and guilt can be destructive in the legal process